First date with Adam

Met up with Adam for sushi in the Chicago suburbs. First impression.....not altogether unattractive, kinda nerdy, but sweet.

We talked for a solid hour, and it was nice. He was accessible in spite of his chemistry genius. He was a decent story teller. I'm not sure I laughed hard, but I smiled.

At the end of the date, I felt like I should hug him, but I didn't really want to. Not that hugging is a big deal, but throughout the date/meal, there was just not a part of me that wanted to see him naked. Or get naked with him. Or felt confident that he would know what to do with my naked body.

And he's moving in September, and I won't even be back in Illinois for a few weeks yet....so what's the point really? I guess if we met and I wanted to climb on top of him, then I would have tried to set something up, so that I could climb on top of him in a few weeks, but I don't.

He sent me a text two days after our date "Good morning! Hope today is better than yesterday. Any chance you'd be interested in a second date?"

So sweet. It really did melt my heart a little bit, and I hope I let him down gently while still keeping the door open for a friendship once I move down there. I said that I didn't think he is quite what I'm looking for. That I want to find a partner who is ready to start a family in the next year or so (or within a year of starting a romantic partnership). He admitted he's not in that position..

Of course, this all is such a load of shit. That I'm going to have to go through for who knows how long. But hopefully not for too long.

And then there were drinks.... and Scott and Adam

So I went to a fancy dinner with some girlfriends, where two of has had a drink...and then went out for 5 more drinks.

And even though I kind of cut Scott loose, and deleted his number, I decided to text him a little bit. And somehow and for some reason he mentioned titty fucking again.

So there's that. I feel like he is definitely not husband #2 material, but I can't decide if it's worth it to get some free drinks or dinner from him. I mean, a girl's gotta eat and drink.

It's still probably a month till I relocate to Chicago, but before then, I'll probably be there at least 4 times, including pretty soon.

Once Aaron freaked out/revealed how immature he is, I decided I need to move on to the next man, and started talking to Adam, a chemistry PhD candidate at a school in the greater Chicago area. We know someone in common. He's not exactly my physical type, but in some pictures he seems not unattractive.

And since I had a lot to drink over the weekend, I texted him a lot and I'm pretty sure said some borderline inappropriate things, but some things I learned about him throughout the drunken messages:

- he said he's dated a few girls, even a classmate, but nothing that's lasted more than a few weeks. He hadn't done much dating until a few years ago, it's been a mix of interesting and frustrating.
- he has a younger brother who is also getting is phd
- he said he thinks i'm cute and he likes my energy
- he said he hasn't made out since last june or july, and that it's been kinda dry for a while --- i made a joke about how it's not dry in the wet lab (where he spends a lot of time doing science stuff, i imagine)
- he said he likes a girl who knows her way around a pun. I said I know my way around a lot of things that start with the letter p ...... like pyramids and pentagons and punctuation
- he said i seem pretty clever
- he said he likes how bold/confident/comfortable i am. it's refreshing and sweet

also he is independent.
and moving in september, but we're going out after i have an interview in the chicago area for dinner. so we'll see how that goes.